consistency is the alignment between your current and your future self

on watching who’s already there, keys in kitchen bowls, and acting like you’ve made it,

I am so afraid of giving up. In my brain, it feels like failure. Rationally, it is not — actually, when well applied, it saves you time and energy on things that don’t fit your current moment or don’t align with your future self.

Besides this fear that was ingrained in my mind during childhood, I learned from a very young age that, usually, nothing is created from nothing. To reach your goal, you need to put your energy into it. So I try to focus on what I can do right now — and it usually starts with observing.

the observation

I start with a question: who is already there?

Whatever you want to become, someone already became it. So I study them.

Do you want to be an academic? Look at what they do — what they read, how they structure their days, what they say no to.

Do you want to be an influencer? What do they do? How do they create, how often do they post, what do they consume?

Do you want to stop smoking? Look at the people who stopped — what did they change, what did they avoid, what did they put in place of the cigarette?

This is what I am doing now with my creative side. I have been learning about people who create art. What do they do? What do they consume? What do they study? Their routines leave clues, and those clues become my map.

Because you can’t set up a life you haven’t observed yet. First you watch, then you build.

the set up

I lived traveling around the world for 3 years, and during those 3 years of moving between countries monthly, I had to develop some strategies to keep my systems safe and consistent anywhere I went.

I realized I needed to clean up the small tasks that were consuming my day: where are my keys? what is my night ritual? what am I wearing tomorrow? I believe that when you minimize these open questions, your day flows naturally — as smooth as possible.

My keys? On top of the main table. I usually grab a kitchen bowl and throw in my keys, eye drops, wallet. Any kitchen has a bowl.

My gym clothes? In the beginning, I would pick what to wear the night before, so the next morning I could just focus on wearing it. Basic.

My food? I have meal phases. I get obsessed with a flavor and keep eating it for as long as I can. My current one is smashed ground beef, rice, roasted carrots, and broccoli. So basic, and so easy to eat every day.

These are some examples of what I did when my focus was becoming who I already was inside — my body just wasn’t representing my inner self yet. So all of my micro-decision clean-ups were focused on making my healthy lifestyle easier to sustain.

This can be applied to anything you want to achieve.

the acting

But if I want to achieve something I’m not already, how can I know what my biggest time consumers are?

Act like you already have it — or even better, like you already are that person. The famous fake it till you make it, but instead of pretending to be something you are not, work on your mind so deeply, visualize yourself in so much detail, that your actions will follow through.

I wanted to be healthier, feel prettier, feel good in my own skin — but my mind was already there. I already had it, so it was only a matter of time until my body aligned with my mind.

Now, with everything I have observed about the artists I admire, I will visualize it so, so hard — that I am already there — and then my realization will come. It is all a matter of time.

the belief

Of course, we all have patterns to break. For some, there are even bigger challenges — a busy life, health issues, family dynamics or other stressors demanding attention. But it is possible. Is it fair that some have more challenges then others? Not at all. But it is possible, and that is all that matters. Step by step.

I am an anxious person, and sometimes my anxiety lands me in catastrophic scenarios. But I observe these thoughts from a distance, disconnect myself from them, and go back to what is true in my mind: anything that is supposed to be, will be!

Does this mean I release and let it go? No — I keep working. But it also means I believe the universe is working in my direction, and at some point I will meet my new self, having reached what I wanted to reach.

Is that a quantum leap? lol (honest question)

the results

I am human, and of course I am afraid of failure. But up to now, I completely believe I am exactly where I was supposed to be — and anything I put my mind to, I reach. I also believe the goal you set at the beginning of the work can mutate into something else. You wanted to be skinny? Now you want to be healthy. You wanted to build a business? Now you want to master a skill. You wanted to build a wealthy life? Now you want to have enough. This is not lowering the dream — it is the work sharpening it. Only by showing up daily do you discover what you were actually reaching for.

And that is why it doesn’t contradict something I have been seeing in some posts lately: “the universe is not on a budget.” Which is so true!!! Ask for everything. Dream without limits. The mutation of the goal is not the universe giving you less — it is you understanding more. The results come from the small wins, achieved by keeping consistency in your actions, daily, constantly, being who you are supposed to be in that moment.

The belief will smooth your journey. And when you realize it — you made it. And then: next step! next project! next inner challenge! One challenge fuels the next one, because we are here to live and experience as much as we can — not in an exhaustive way, but in an exploratory and curious one.

This is the result: the trust, the curiosity, your capability to enjoy the journey while working for it, consistently.